7 Tips for Getting Through a Relationship Breakup.
A Relationship Breakup is hard work.
Breaking up is hard to do. It’s a rollercoaster of emotions, ranging from sadness and anger to confusion and relief (maybe even a little bit of happiness depending on how you felt about the relationship). But the fact is, for any long term relationship, whether you initiated the breakup or not, navigating through the aftermath can feel overwhelming. And you might even be confronted with consequences you never even realised. Aka a letter from your ex’s lawyer or even me as a mediator!.
But amidst the chaos, there is hope. But the first thing you need to do is to take control of what is going on upstairs and inside (aka your head and your emotions). By taking steps to clear your headspace, you can regain control over your thoughts and feelings, paving the way for healing and growth.
7 tips for getting through a relationship breakup
Which is why I have set out 7 things you can do to start taking control. So when it comes time to take the next step – it isn’t as scary as it might first appear.
Tip 1: Acknowledge Your Emotions after a relationship breakup
The first step in navigating a relationship breakup is to acknowledge your emotions. Allow yourself to feel whatever comes up—whether it’s sadness, anger, or even relief. Suppressing your emotions will only prolong the healing process. Instead, give yourself permission to grieve (or celebrate) the relationship.
Tip 2: Seek Support
You don’t have to go through this alone. As much as friends and family can be great, I always recommend a coach or counsellor. Why? Sometimes the support you need isn’t going to be in the form of a cheerleader. Sometimes you need someone who can tell you to pick your sh## up and get moving.
Tip 3: Practice Self- Care
Self-care is crucial in times of emotional distress. Take care of your physical and mental well-being by engaging in activities that make you feel good. Whether it’s going for a walk, practicing yoga, or indulging in a favourite hobby, prioritise activities that make you smile.
Tip 4: Limit Contact
While it may be tempting to stay in touch with your ex, it’s important to establish boundaries to protect your emotional health. Limit contact with your ex, especially in the immediate aftermath of the breakup. This will give you space to process your emotions and begin the healing process. Depending on your circumstances this may not be completely possible. You can communicate to each other that contact needs to be kept to a minimum for the next little bit. Pick a time and day when you will touch base. In between, if there’s anything that needs to be said, write it down, involve a third party, or send an email. This is about respecting each other during the separation period. One of you might get through this quickly and the other person may take time. Don’t rush them – it is worth it in the long run.
Tip 5: Focus on the Present
It’s natural to dwell on the past and replay memories of the relationship in your mind. However, ruminating on what could have been will only prolong your pain. Instead, focus on the present moment and what you can control. Take each day as it comes and focus on rebuilding your life one step at a time.
Tip 6: Practice Mindfulness
Mindfulness can be a powerful tool in clearing your headspace and regaining control over your thoughts. Take time each day to practice mindfulness meditation or engage in mindful activities such as journaling or deep breathing exercises. By bringing awareness to the present moment, you can cultivate inner peace and resilience.
Tip 7: Set Goals for the Future
While it’s important to honour your feelings in the aftermath of a breakup, it’s also essential to look towards the future. Set goals for yourself—whether they’re related to your career, personal growth, or relationships. Having a sense of purpose and direction can provide a beacon of hope in times of darkness.
Each of these tips is covered in my online program, ReSet. Yes this is a realtionships course but guess what. Even if you are at the end of this relationship – you are at the beginning of another. A relationship with you. Don’t think becuase this is over it won’t help. It will. So if you want a coach in your corner as well as the freedom to do this work when and where is suits you this is the program you need. ReSet will help take the overwhelm away and help you to focus on what is important – YOU!
Be realistic, navigating a relationship breakup is no easy feat.
It’s a journey filled with ups and downs, twists and turns. But by taking proactive steps to clear your headspace and prioritise your emotional well-being, you can emerge from the experience stronger, wiser, and more resilient than ever before. Remember, healing takes time, so be gentle with yourself as you navigate through the emotional rollercoaster of a relationship breakup.
